Do you have a lot of friends? I used to have a lot around me but then life happened and quite a few of them moved to a different country or town. I accepted (nothing I can do about it, can`t I?) that we cannot meet as often as we did before. In the meantime, I am grateful for friends who still live close by.
Well… relatively… living in London, you have to travel long to meet someone.. I don’t really mind when my commute is longer than I would expect. The price is always seeing my friends, which worth the effort.
This has to be two way, tho. I like when the other half doesn’t have to check their calendar or think whether they have better things to do or not. When they don’t just wish to meet but actually make it happen.
Before I went on holiday, I texted a really good friend who I used to work with to see whether we have a chance to meet in Hungary or not. She lives on the other side of the country, but we still considered quite a few options before we washed our meeting away. It was not the right time, although we both were desperate to see the other. We both would rather travel through the country just to have a face to face chat which we haven’t had for almost 3 years. We don’t give up meeting in the very close future but knowing that she would have done the same effort as me just to see each other, means the world to me.
The other good friend is a family actually, with whom we have regular dinner parties (I know it sounds old, but hey… food, drink and good company… what else do you need after a long week?!). We live almost 2 hours away from each other but it is never an issue.
These guys I call friends. Making an effort to meet or have a phone call or video chat is a two-way game. Both parties have to work on it.
I love friends from who you cannot have enough. You talk every day, you meet often and you still feel like the time together is nothing. You are not getting bored of each other, you have unlimited topics to talk about and your time together is full of joy and laugh. You just feel natural and efforts are obviously made.
Do you want the same life as you wanted years ago?
Do you have the same desires, dreams, and plans as you had years ago?
Me neither… Continue reading
Yes… no… maybe… I don’t know…
There are so many different answers we can get. I think it all depends on what matters? How we measure success or happiness? How we measure proudness? What do you want to achieve to be proud of yourself? List things to own? Milestones you have reached that you set for yourself by the age of 25? 30? 40…? Do you consider happiness as something to be proud of? Continue reading
It actually does and you can give a meaning to it such as ‘is it too late’? This type of anxiety is the fear of wasting your time, not using your potential, or feeling it is too late to start something new.
I was talking to a friend the other day and what else could have been the main topic – of course – other than the coronavirus. We were sharing feelings about it and how we are copying in this unusual situation. Continue reading
…. and what is it exactly? We are living in a different “normal” now.
In the past few weeks, we had to adjust things in our “normal” life. Social distancing, staying home when we can, reducing shopping and avoid buying any unnecessary items. Continue reading
I tend to think that we are the ones who have an effect on our lives.
Well, this lockdown situation made me think otherwise. We all have readjusted so many aspects of our lives. The latest situations are out of our hands.
Suddenly, we all have new and unusual restrictions that we need to follow. We had to cancel holidays, cannot go out to have dinner, cannot meet with our friends and family when we please, cannot go to a gym. Just to name a few – and the list can be endless.
These are all against my – and so others – plans of course, but these weeks also have taught me to be more flexible and acceptor. It taught me to be more understandable and let things that I cannot change go of my hand. I try to be more creative when planning my day ahead of me, I try to take it easy when my questions are answered only last minute.
It is quite difficult for a person who has straight plans about her life, who likes to make plans, calculations and even spreadsheets to be everything is place. For someone who likes everything organized.
What helped me to accept the situation is greatness. I felt lucky to still be able to go ahead with my moving last week. Even we don’t have half of the furniture for a while, it is okay. I am grateful that my family and friends are healthy and safe for now. Everything else seems so little.
We are only dust in a big machine. It is up to us how we react to any situation that happens with us. We can be angry, disappointed or sad but everything happens for a reason and it is time to reflect on how we want to live our lives. Being frustrated and waste our energy on unchangeable situations or being more flexible and see how we can use the circumstances that we have.
What would you choose?
I am in the middle of my room around a big mess and trying to put my life into boxes. We are moving into a new flat on Saturday.
I am trying to sort out what comes and what goes to charity – when they will open again… My London-life… It happened 6 years ago. I packed a bag and booked a flight to London. I would say it definitely was the best decision in my life.
So many things have happened since I arrived in this (for me) new country. I have had different jobs, apartments, opportunities to grab and lose. I have become friends with so many people and lost connection with so many from the past.
Every step was about moving forward and each move was a bit better than the previous one. I always have had a bigger picture in my mind where I am and where I want to be. Sometimes I could move on quickly, but sometimes time just didn’t want to come.
Working on better chances, circumstances or just call it life is hard effort. These 6 years have taught me whatever want to do in your life is only up to you and your dedication to that goal.
Whatever stage you are in your life it can be better and it will be better. You are the one who can decide what you want and have endurance working on it and make sacrifices.
Change your habit, change your mindset and realize you are the leader of your life. Before that, you always would blame your circumstances, your past, people around you, not having enough opportunity to break out of your current conditions.
Don’t give up. Remember if ‘Plan A’ didn’t work, the alphabet has 25 more letters! Keep going on!
There are so many decisions in our lives that we need to make. A few of them are bigger, a few of them are smaller.
Usually, I take all pro and contra. Like to do my research and make even a spreadsheet. It depends on the topic of course, but I like to see both sides.
The latest decision I had to make where to live next? We have been renting the same flat for 2 years now and decided to move on to a bigger one. It was time. Me and my boyfriend have quite a different lifestyle. While he sleeps early (he has to wake up too early… fair enough…) I am a night owl. Having an extra room or living room which we don’t have at the moment will be definitely a great idea. Continue reading
I have to say, I actually like it – so far. It has been only 1.5 weeks so it is not really much and let’s see what I will say about this lockdown in a month’s time :O but hey…. let’s live in a present for now. 😉
Since the lockdown, there is great British weather outside of course… which hardly happens usually… and I am only able to look at this tempting sunshine from my window which is next to my desk where I work. Not sure if this is the right spot for me…. Continue reading
There are many things in life that we don’t like to do but it still necessary. Someone doesn’t like to go to a post office or cooking, maybe cleaning windows. Well… I hate shopping. Continue reading