Friendship needs to be appreciated

friends time

Do you have a lot of friends? I used to have a lot around me but then life happened and quite a few of them moved to a different country or town. I accepted (nothing I can do about it, can`t I?) that we cannot meet as often as we did before. In the meantime, I am grateful for friends who still live close by.

Well… relatively… living in London, you have to travel long to meet someone.. I don’t really mind when my commute is longer than I would expect. The price is always seeing my friends, which worth the effort. Continue reading

Would your 5 years younger self be proud?

Would your 5 years younger self be proud

 

Yes… no… maybe… I don’t know…

There are so many different answers we can get. I think it all depends on what matters? How we measure success or happiness? How we measure proudness? What do you want to achieve to be proud of yourself? List things to own? Milestones you have reached that you set for yourself by the age of 25? 30? 40…? Do you consider happiness as something to be proud of? Continue reading

Does time anxiety exist?

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does time anxiety exist

It actually does and you can give a meaning to it such as ‘is it too late’? This type of anxiety is the fear of wasting your time, not using your potential, or feeling it is too late to start something new.

I was talking to a friend the other day and what else could have been the main topic – of course – other than the coronavirus. We were sharing feelings about it and how we are copying in this unusual situation. Continue reading

How much control do you have in your life?

How much control you have in your life

I tend to think that we are the ones who have an effect on our lives.

But really?

Well, this lockdown situation made me think otherwise. We all have readjusted so many aspects of our lives. The latest situations are out of our hands.

Suddenly, we all have new and unusual restrictions that we need to follow. We had to cancel holidays, cannot go out to have dinner, cannot meet with our friends and family when we please, cannot go to a gym. Just to name a few – and the list can be endless.

These are all against my – and so others – plans of course, but these weeks also have taught me to be more flexible and acceptor. It taught me to be more understandable and let things that I cannot change go of my hand. I try to be more creative when planning my day ahead of me, I try to take it easy when my questions are answered only last minute.

It is quite difficult for a person who has straight plans about her life, who likes to make plans, calculations and even spreadsheets to be everything is place. For someone who likes everything organized.

What helped me to accept the situation is greatness. I felt lucky to still be able to go ahead with my moving last week. Even we don’t have half of the furniture for a while, it is okay. I am grateful that my family and friends are healthy and safe for now. Everything else seems so little.

We are only dust in a big machine. It is up to us how we react to any situation that happens with us. We can be angry, disappointed or sad but everything happens for a reason and it is time to reflect on how we want to live our lives. Being frustrated and waste our energy on unchangeable situations or being more flexible and see how we can use the circumstances that we have.

What would you choose?

Why I am grateful for each babysteps?

Why I am grateful for each babysteps

I am in the middle of my room around a big mess and trying to put my life into boxes. We are moving into a new flat on Saturday.

I am trying to sort out what comes and what goes to charity – when they will open again… My London-life… It happened 6 years ago. I packed a bag and booked a flight to London. I would say it definitely was the best decision in my life.

So many things have happened since I arrived in this (for me) new country. I have had different jobs, apartments, opportunities to grab and lose. I have become friends with so many people and lost connection with so many from the past.

Every step was about moving forward and each move was a bit better than the previous one. I always have had a bigger picture in my mind where I am and where I want to be. Sometimes I could move on quickly, but sometimes time just didn’t want to come.

Working on better chances, circumstances or just call it life is hard effort. These 6 years have taught me whatever want to do in your life is only up to you and your dedication to that goal.

Whatever stage you are in your life it can be better and it will be better. You are the one who can decide what you want and have endurance working on it and make sacrifices.

Change your habit, change your mindset and realize you are the leader of your life. Before that, you always would blame your circumstances, your past, people around you, not having enough opportunity to break out of your current conditions.

 

Don’t give up. Remember if ‘Plan A’ didn’t work, the alphabet has 25 more letters! Keep going on!

Was it the right decision?

Was it the right decision

There are so many decisions in our lives that we need to make. A few of them are bigger, a few of them are smaller.

Usually, I take all pro and contra. Like to do my research and make even a spreadsheet. It depends on the topic of course, but I like to see both sides.

The latest decision I had to make where to live next? We have been renting the same flat for 2 years now and decided to move on to a bigger one. It was time. Me and my boyfriend have quite a different lifestyle. While he sleeps early (he has to wake up too early… fair enough…) I am a night owl. Having an extra room or living room which we don’t have at the moment will be definitely a great idea. Continue reading

To be grounded as an adult

self isolation

I have to say, I actually like it – so far. It has been only 1.5 weeks so it is not really much and let’s see what I will say about this lockdown in a month’s time :O but hey…. let’s live in a present for now. 😉

Since the lockdown, there is great British weather outside of course… which hardly happens usually… and I am only able to look at this tempting sunshine from my window which is next to my desk where I work. Not sure if this is the right spot for me…. Continue reading