Why talking about our problems helps so much?

Why talking about our problems helps so much?

Why talking about our problems help so much

Headset on, get a glass of wine and be ready for gossip!

This is how I prepare myself for a long phone conversation with my friends during a pandemic when socializing is not acceptable. Or with a friend who lives a hundred miles away, and unfortunately, I have a lot of them far from me.

I love sharing exciting news, happy moments, or even sad feelings or troubles with my besties and of course, I love to hear what is going on with them as well!

Have you ever felt relieved after a chat with your friends? Have you ever found a solution after talking to someone about your problem, even the other didn`t give you any answers?

Talking about your feelings definitely has their benefits. Sometimes you just need someone to listen and other times you feel better after complaining to others. You might don’t even need advice, talking through problems give you a solution as well. Once you have processed your difficulties and get it out of your mind, it helps to let it go or come up with a “how-to-deal-with-it” plan. It reduces stress and helps you to ease your heavy thoughts. That`s why talking is important and I love having great friends to practice it. 

How can you get out of your comfort zone?

How to get out of your comfort zone

Same flat, same job, same friends, same supermarket to go. How convenient is it?! It definitely is.

I used to be terrified of new situations, I was not comfortable to extend my friend’s circle or just speak in front of a group. I am still not a fan of being in the center of anything, but I am confident enough to be the person who steps up when there is a need. Continue reading

Is it good to have high standards?

Is it good to have high standards

I love having high standards because it pushes me to keep going, do it better and don’t give up. And even my pride doesn’t let me accept low standards of performance.

I hate having high standards because I always want everything to be perfect and I feel less when something is not going as great as I expected.

I also hate having high standards because others clumsiness or laziness bothers me or even make me angry. Somehow, I just don’t understand why other people don’t want to do their best. Why they don’t want to make the most out of themselves? Continue reading

Time of self-reflection

self-reflection

They say until situations are happening again and again, you still need to learn something from it. The tricky part is that you don’t know what it could be!

It can be a colleague who you have a fight with all times but then changing your job, you find yourself in the same shoes. So, what you need to learn? It could be more empathy towards different personalities or more understanding of other beliefs and working style. Continue reading

Is it bad thinking about the past?

thinking about the past

 

We all have good and bad memories from our past which can be crawling back to our mind from time to time. Remember of pleasant moments are uplifting and can draw a smile on our faces. On the other hand, remember unpleasant memories can make us sad or even angry.

When this happens, it is advisable to understand what they mean. Why they are pop in our minds when we don’t wait for them. And why we punish ourselves chewing them over and over again. Continue reading

How easily do you change your mind?

change your mindset

I think it depends on what is on the table. Sometimes, I feel jumping between options but when I am thinking about my habits it can be hard to be consistent with a new perspective.

I have read a book about taking pictures for Instagram and other social media sites. It was a lovely Xmas present and finally, I had time to finish it. The book is about change your general perspective and always tries to explore different shapes, colours or subjects when taking photos. It can reflect on our lives as well, I guess it doesn’t harm anyone to change our view from time to time. Continue reading

How to adapt to a situation

How to adapt to a situation

Recently, we moved into a new flat and I jumped into decorating it. I am so obsessed with decoration and design (at some point I was thinking to be a graphic designer but never happened… yet…) and usually, I try to buy cheap DIY staff and create myself something which gets in shape in my mind or just order a wall sticker and place it. This time – of course, because of the coronavirus and lockdown – I had to be even more creative. I had a few days of research on Pinterest that I will be able to manage to make from what I have at home and jumped into it. Continue reading

Does time anxiety exist?

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does time anxiety exist

It actually does and you can give a meaning to it such as ‘is it too late’? This type of anxiety is the fear of wasting your time, not using your potential, or feeling it is too late to start something new.

I was talking to a friend the other day and what else could have been the main topic – of course – other than the coronavirus. We were sharing feelings about it and how we are copying in this unusual situation. Continue reading

Why I am grateful for each babysteps?

Why I am grateful for each babysteps

I am in the middle of my room around a big mess and trying to put my life into boxes. We are moving into a new flat on Saturday.

I am trying to sort out what comes and what goes to charity – when they will open again… My London-life… It happened 6 years ago. I packed a bag and booked a flight to London. I would say it definitely was the best decision in my life.

So many things have happened since I arrived in this (for me) new country. I have had different jobs, apartments, opportunities to grab and lose. I have become friends with so many people and lost connection with so many from the past.

Every step was about moving forward and each move was a bit better than the previous one. I always have had a bigger picture in my mind where I am and where I want to be. Sometimes I could move on quickly, but sometimes time just didn’t want to come.

Working on better chances, circumstances or just call it life is hard effort. These 6 years have taught me whatever want to do in your life is only up to you and your dedication to that goal.

Whatever stage you are in your life it can be better and it will be better. You are the one who can decide what you want and have endurance working on it and make sacrifices.

Change your habit, change your mindset and realize you are the leader of your life. Before that, you always would blame your circumstances, your past, people around you, not having enough opportunity to break out of your current conditions.

 

Don’t give up. Remember if ‘Plan A’ didn’t work, the alphabet has 25 more letters! Keep going on!

To be grounded as an adult

self isolation

I have to say, I actually like it – so far. It has been only 1.5 weeks so it is not really much and let’s see what I will say about this lockdown in a month’s time :O but hey…. let’s live in a present for now. 😉

Since the lockdown, there is great British weather outside of course… which hardly happens usually… and I am only able to look at this tempting sunshine from my window which is next to my desk where I work. Not sure if this is the right spot for me…. Continue reading