Friendship needs to be appreciated

friends time

Do you have a lot of friends? I used to have a lot around me but then life happened and quite a few of them moved to a different country or town. I accepted (nothing I can do about it, can`t I?) that we cannot meet as often as we did before. In the meantime, I am grateful for friends who still live close by.

Well… relatively… living in London, you have to travel long to meet someone.. I don’t really mind when my commute is longer than I would expect. The price is always seeing my friends, which worth the effort.

This has to be two way, tho. I like when the other half doesn’t have to check their calendar or think whether they have better things to do or not. When they don’t just wish to meet but actually make it happen.

Before I went on holiday, I texted a really good friend who I used to work with to see whether we have a chance to meet in Hungary or not. She lives on the other side of the country, but we still considered quite a few options before we washed our meeting away. It was not the right time, although we both were desperate to see the other. We both would rather travel through the country just to have a face to face chat which we haven’t had for almost 3 years. We don’t give up meeting in the very close future but knowing that she would have done the same effort as me just to see each other, means the world to me.

The other good friend is a family actually, with whom we have regular dinner parties (I know it sounds old, but hey… food, drink and good company… what else do you need after a long week?!). We live almost 2 hours away from each other but it is never an issue.

These guys I call friends. Making an effort to meet or have a phone call or video chat is a two-way game. Both parties have to work on it.

I love friends from who you cannot have enough. You talk every day, you meet often and you still feel like the time together is nothing. You are not getting bored of each other, you have unlimited topics to talk about and your time together is full of joy and laugh. You just feel natural and efforts are obviously made.

Holiday in Morocco

Holiday in Morocco

I have never been out of Europe so planning a trip to Morocco was totally new to me and absolutely exciting as well. I didn’t really know what to expect. I read a lot of blogs and reviews, even ordered a travel book to be ready for this new adventure…

This holiday was decided and planned very quickly… I had a chat with my friend who wanted to go there but was not sure with who and when. I told her that I have been playing with a thought to go there as well and that’s how it started… Continue reading

When do you have to say goodbye

When to say goodbye

So many memories. So many feelings. So many experiences. So many deep conversations. When do you have to give up on it? Do you have to at all?

Once, someone told me, you can manage only around 100 people in your life. Someone has to fall out to give space to someone new. I always think about this when an emotional distance wedge a rope between me and a friend and a friend became a stranger. Or at least someone who is not in my life anymore. Continue reading

Winter Wonderland – twice this year

It’s cold, it’s crowded, it’s not the cheapest winter program to do but still… once during the winter season, you have to go to Winter Wonderland.

This year I had been there twice – Am I going to be a fan? Hm… haven’t decided yet but it could be really fun visiting it with a friend. At least it’s a chance to hang out together for a few hours and do something different. Continue reading

What to buy for Xmas?

What to buy for Christmas?

Christmas is coming and everybody is desperate to find a perfect gift to their loved ones. I like to find personalized gift ideas which I know the person will like it well. Birthdays, Xmas, Anniversaries or for any big event I make an effort to find the right gift. Most of the time I do it very well, but sometimes I just do not have any idea and stress myself out because the clock is ticking. Continue reading

How we can understand people and why it’s important

How we can understand people and why it's important2

Have you ever been mad at your friends? Of course, you had been… Let’s be honest, friendship is as the same as any relation – different personalities, dreams, desires, plans, ways of thinking. It is normal to have a disagreement between friends.

I had been angry with my friends lately. They decided to move to Spain a few months ago. They are still in London, but since then I haven’t really heard from them. We always tried to plan a night out but never happened. They were too busy with other stuff… Pf… Who wasn’t? They finished their job months ago and – in my mind – the only thing they had to do is packing. Of course, I didn’t know the small but important details such as they haven’t found a house in Spain yet, they haven’t found a new housemate who will take over their rooms and so on.

How should I know? They didn’t tell me these! I only knew (from my point of view) that they avoid me. I felt down because I knew our days are counted. Of course, I am going to visit them, it will be a great opportunity to explore Alicante, but I badly wanted to have time with them before they jump in the car and start their journey. Continue reading

Why asking for help is hard to do?

Why asking for help is hard to do?

Do you keep your promises?

I am a person who keeps her words. I expect the same from others but this is not happening very often. Well… depends on the person. I should be more aware of this, but I tend to forget and assume the best from everyone.

I don’t think believing in people is a problem but after a while, it can be really disappointing. And that’s why I avoid asking favours. Well… I do, but very rarely and mainly when someone else is in a need. When my brother was looking for a job, I tried to remember all of my contacts who might be in a position to know some places where need an extra hand. Also, when my boyfriend needed some information one of the IT courses he was thinking to start his career at, another friend promised to give information about but it never happened… Continue reading