Valentine’s Days

Valentines Day

You can hate it, you can love it, or it can be neutral to you. For me Valentine’s Day is not really a special occasion.

I used to hate when I was single and used to be excited when I had a boyfriend and wanted to make it super special. But honestly, it doesn’t have to be an extraordinary day. When you find your other half, happiness will be with you every day. You don’t want to pay extreme attention to one day just because of its name. Continue reading

You are not late from anything

You are not late from anything

Another birthday, another cake, another candle at the top. Yep, I have a birthday this Friday. Khm… Thirty-something…

I used to hate my birthdays when I was younger because it always reminded me how my real life is different than it was in my dreams.

I am okay with it for a few years now, of course, but I don’t make a big fuss about it. It is just a number and doesn’t mean much anymore. Continue reading

Avoiding regrets in life

avoiding regrets in life

I have been reading a book from Anne Griffin When All is Said. An elderly man raises five toasts to five people who have meant the most to him.

These stories are full of joy, regret, tragedy and secrets which part of our lives anyway. It is thought-provoking to read how the smallest thing can cause regret in the future – a childish action or even stubbornness. Continue reading

Who is your role model?

role model

Most of us say it is a parent, friend, author, actress, businessman or even a motivational guru or certain life coach. I always wanted to be prepared for this question but I still don`t know.

Hm… you know what? Actually, I know the answer: I don`t have a role model. I admire people who have a positive personality, hard worker, strong, and confident and don`t give up on their dreams. These motivate me and that is the point of the role model. Continue reading

Spending Christmas with loved ones

Christmas without family

This is my 5th Christmas not being with my family, staying in London and spending time with my partner and friends.

I have lost a spirit in the last few years when I still lived in Hungary. The expectations bother me. Somehow everything has to be perfect for and during Christmas, nobody can say an angry word, we must love our brothers and sisters and we must be good for a few days.

I reached a point when I found this very dishonest. Why those `rules` state for only 2-3 days? We should be kind to others for the rest of the days as well. I believe it is okay to acting as it is a normal day like any other. And anyway – I remember – something always happened and we ended up in a fight. Continue reading

What to buy for Xmas?

What to buy for Christmas?

Christmas is coming and everybody is desperate to find a perfect gift to their loved ones. I like to find personalized gift ideas which I know the person will like it well. Birthdays, Xmas, Anniversaries or for any big event I make an effort to find the right gift. Most of the time I do it very well, but sometimes I just do not have any idea and stress myself out because the clock is ticking. Continue reading

Say yes to an opportunity – Three years together

Say yes to an opportunity - Three years together

My friend – who I lived with – invited me to a Hungarian gig party where I went; even I hardly know the band, but sounded fun. He also invited one of his workmates. We met in our flat for chit-chat and made a journey to the party together. The gig was awesome and the after-party was splendid. We definitely had a great time. The day after he sent me a friend request on Facebook and we started to chat… That’s how it started… 3 years ago… Continue reading

How a big city changes you

how a big city can change you

This subject sneaked in my mind when I was exploring Prague in the middle of summer. I started to think about how much I have changed since I moved to London. Despite being happy for all of the good alterations that I can recall, there are a few spots that surprised me.

People are kind. It sounds ridiculous but I tend to forget that people are kind and helpful as they were in Prague and in Cyprus (review part 2) as well. I was not afraid to ask information in return to get a look or a half answer where in the end you are the one who feels ashamed to bother others. People were thoughtful enough to offer some help when they saw we struggled with something. Continue reading

How we can understand people and why it’s important

How we can understand people and why it's important2

Have you ever been mad at your friends? Of course, you had been… Let’s be honest, friendship is as the same as any relation – different personalities, dreams, desires, plans, ways of thinking. It is normal to have a disagreement between friends.

I had been angry with my friends lately. They decided to move to Spain a few months ago. They are still in London, but since then I haven’t really heard from them. We always tried to plan a night out but never happened. They were too busy with other stuff… Pf… Who wasn’t? They finished their job months ago and – in my mind – the only thing they had to do is packing. Of course, I didn’t know the small but important details such as they haven’t found a house in Spain yet, they haven’t found a new housemate who will take over their rooms and so on.

How should I know? They didn’t tell me these! I only knew (from my point of view) that they avoid me. I felt down because I knew our days are counted. Of course, I am going to visit them, it will be a great opportunity to explore Alicante, but I badly wanted to have time with them before they jump in the car and start their journey. Continue reading

Why asking for help is hard to do?

Why asking for help is hard to do?

Do you keep your promises?

I am a person who keeps her words. I expect the same from others but this is not happening very often. Well… depends on the person. I should be more aware of this, but I tend to forget and assume the best from everyone.

I don’t think believing in people is a problem but after a while, it can be really disappointing. And that’s why I avoid asking favours. Well… I do, but very rarely and mainly when someone else is in a need. When my brother was looking for a job, I tried to remember all of my contacts who might be in a position to know some places where need an extra hand. Also, when my boyfriend needed some information one of the IT courses he was thinking to start his career at, another friend promised to give information about but it never happened… Continue reading