Why talking about our problems helps so much?

Why talking about our problems helps so much?

Why talking about our problems help so much

Headset on, get a glass of wine and be ready for gossip!

This is how I prepare myself for a long phone conversation with my friends during a pandemic when socializing is not acceptable. Or with a friend who lives a hundred miles away, and unfortunately, I have a lot of them far from me.

I love sharing exciting news, happy moments, or even sad feelings or troubles with my besties and of course, I love to hear what is going on with them as well!

Have you ever felt relieved after a chat with your friends? Have you ever found a solution after talking to someone about your problem, even the other didn`t give you any answers?

Talking about your feelings definitely has their benefits. Sometimes you just need someone to listen and other times you feel better after complaining to others. You might don’t even need advice, talking through problems give you a solution as well. Once you have processed your difficulties and get it out of your mind, it helps to let it go or come up with a “how-to-deal-with-it” plan. It reduces stress and helps you to ease your heavy thoughts. That`s why talking is important and I love having great friends to practice it. 

What really means to have a supportive partner

 

Relationship is not easy. Never. It doesn’t matter that you are at the beginning of it and you see your partner through a pink bubble, or you are about to start your 10, 20 or 30 years together.

None of us is perfect. We are all having mistakes and annoying habits or hobbies that our better half doesn’t like.

Probably, we all have one of these questions during any stage of the relationship: where is it going? Was it a right choice? Should I move on? Is he or she a right match? Can this be better? Can we go through this? Any many more… Continue reading

Friendship needs to be appreciated

friends time

Do you have a lot of friends? I used to have a lot around me but then life happened and quite a few of them moved to a different country or town. I accepted (nothing I can do about it, can`t I?) that we cannot meet as often as we did before. In the meantime, I am grateful for friends who still live close by.

Well… relatively… living in London, you have to travel long to meet someone.. I don’t really mind when my commute is longer than I would expect. The price is always seeing my friends, which worth the effort. Continue reading

Get the blame for a kind thing you have done

Get the blame for a kind thing you have done

What an amazing feeling could it be?!

Well yeah, I definitely feel it from time to time. Have you ever heard a sentence “once my big heart will kill me”. So you know what I am talking about…

I have learned to say no for a long time ago now… It makes my life easier and protects me from unnecessary drama and conflict which I am not into at all. Sometimes, I still put others above me and in the end, I am the one who hurts the most. Continue reading

How much responsibility do you take?

How much responsibility do you take?

There are compromises in relationships in general which could be silly or very important ones. We all would like to make our loved ones happy and accept tasks to do which might not be our taste.

However, we have to ask ourselves where is the limit? How much the other person has to take? Is not knowing basic common things okay? Continue reading

Valentine’s Days

Valentines Day

You can hate it, you can love it, or it can be neutral to you. For me Valentine’s Day is not really a special occasion.

I used to hate when I was single and used to be excited when I had a boyfriend and wanted to make it super special. But honestly, it doesn’t have to be an extraordinary day. When you find your other half, happiness will be with you every day. You don’t want to pay extreme attention to one day just because of its name. Continue reading

When do you have to say goodbye

When to say goodbye

So many memories. So many feelings. So many experiences. So many deep conversations. When do you have to give up on it? Do you have to at all?

Once, someone told me, you can manage only around 100 people in your life. Someone has to fall out to give space to someone new. I always think about this when an emotional distance wedge a rope between me and a friend and a friend became a stranger. Or at least someone who is not in my life anymore. Continue reading

Spending Christmas with loved ones

Christmas without family

This is my 5th Christmas not being with my family, staying in London and spending time with my partner and friends.

I have lost a spirit in the last few years when I still lived in Hungary. The expectations bother me. Somehow everything has to be perfect for and during Christmas, nobody can say an angry word, we must love our brothers and sisters and we must be good for a few days.

I reached a point when I found this very dishonest. Why those `rules` state for only 2-3 days? We should be kind to others for the rest of the days as well. I believe it is okay to acting as it is a normal day like any other. And anyway – I remember – something always happened and we ended up in a fight. Continue reading