How to set your boundaries

How to set your boundaries

Have you ever said yes to do something but all of your bones were against it? Have you ever agreed to something just because you don’t want to say no to someone?

If these have happened to you already then time to set up your boundaries.

What is the boundary? It is an imaginary line, a feeling, a limit – you name it – that you don’t let others step over. Everybody knows what their boundaries are. You feel it, you just don’t want to confront others when you don’t keep them. You are afraid to be too delicate, too bossy, too needy. Continue reading

Why talking about our problems helps so much?

Why talking about our problems helps so much?

Why talking about our problems help so much

Headset on, get a glass of wine and be ready for gossip!

This is how I prepare myself for a long phone conversation with my friends during a pandemic when socializing is not acceptable. Or with a friend who lives a hundred miles away, and unfortunately, I have a lot of them far from me.

I love sharing exciting news, happy moments, or even sad feelings or troubles with my besties and of course, I love to hear what is going on with them as well!

Have you ever felt relieved after a chat with your friends? Have you ever found a solution after talking to someone about your problem, even the other didn`t give you any answers?

Talking about your feelings definitely has their benefits. Sometimes you just need someone to listen and other times you feel better after complaining to others. You might don’t even need advice, talking through problems give you a solution as well. Once you have processed your difficulties and get it out of your mind, it helps to let it go or come up with a “how-to-deal-with-it” plan. It reduces stress and helps you to ease your heavy thoughts. That`s why talking is important and I love having great friends to practice it. 

How can you get out of your comfort zone?

How to get out of your comfort zone

Same flat, same job, same friends, same supermarket to go. How convenient is it?! It definitely is.

I used to be terrified of new situations, I was not comfortable to extend my friend’s circle or just speak in front of a group. I am still not a fan of being in the center of anything, but I am confident enough to be the person who steps up when there is a need. Continue reading

What really means to have a supportive partner

 

Relationship is not easy. Never. It doesn’t matter that you are at the beginning of it and you see your partner through a pink bubble, or you are about to start your 10, 20 or 30 years together.

None of us is perfect. We are all having mistakes and annoying habits or hobbies that our better half doesn’t like.

Probably, we all have one of these questions during any stage of the relationship: where is it going? Was it a right choice? Should I move on? Is he or she a right match? Can this be better? Can we go through this? Any many more… Continue reading

Is it good to have high standards?

Is it good to have high standards

I love having high standards because it pushes me to keep going, do it better and don’t give up. And even my pride doesn’t let me accept low standards of performance.

I hate having high standards because I always want everything to be perfect and I feel less when something is not going as great as I expected.

I also hate having high standards because others clumsiness or laziness bothers me or even make me angry. Somehow, I just don’t understand why other people don’t want to do their best. Why they don’t want to make the most out of themselves? Continue reading

Stop overthinking

stop overthinking

I used to have this unpleasant habit of overthinking everything. But really – everything. When things went well, I was afraid that it would be ruined. When things went wrong, I was kept thinking about it and made the situation even worst in my mind.

I am much better now but I still can make such a mess in my head by myself.

One of my friends back on the horse as she started dating again after a long period. Guess what? She is already overthinking it. I totally understand her, I have been there and so many times I feel grateful that I don’t have to go through these stages of dating having my other half. Continue reading

When are we getting back our freedom?

getting back our freedom

When I was a kid, I used to read the description of star signs and was always excited when something great was written to me. Growing up, I left these columns behind me but if one thing is true, being an Aquarius, I cannot stand any limitation of my freedom. You can imagine how lockdown made me crazy then.

Now, having more normality in our life again, there are only a couple of things that is still not allowed to do, but there are so many restrictions which is more or less a limitation of our freedom – still. Continue reading

Time of self-reflection

self-reflection

They say until situations are happening again and again, you still need to learn something from it. The tricky part is that you don’t know what it could be!

It can be a colleague who you have a fight with all times but then changing your job, you find yourself in the same shoes. So, what you need to learn? It could be more empathy towards different personalities or more understanding of other beliefs and working style. Continue reading

Friendship needs to be appreciated

friends time

Do you have a lot of friends? I used to have a lot around me but then life happened and quite a few of them moved to a different country or town. I accepted (nothing I can do about it, can`t I?) that we cannot meet as often as we did before. In the meantime, I am grateful for friends who still live close by.

Well… relatively… living in London, you have to travel long to meet someone.. I don’t really mind when my commute is longer than I would expect. The price is always seeing my friends, which worth the effort. Continue reading